Sunday, January 21, 2007

Friends

How quickly friends sometimes pass away. I saw a good friend the other day, I saw her as she walked by me and became out of my gaze, she did not even have the courage to say "Hi". She was 10 feet away from me! We will "talk" together thru the expanses of the internet, but yet she won't even gather the courage to say "Hi!" in public. Is there something to bringing out your extroverted self on the internet that can't be brought out in public? I really think that there is. It is easier to say the things that you wouldn't tell anyone else when it is on paper. And is there also a reason to be a little more introverted while in public knowing that you can talk to your friends online and tell them you are sorry for not talking to them when you saw them last alive and in person? It is hard to keep an online friendship above water, it takes alot more work. I would rather make face with the people that I love than expect to talk to them over the internet. I would rather say "Hi" while I have them there to cherish and love in person. Because who knows when the next time will be when we get to talk in person? Who knows when we will get to cherish each other in the knowledge of who we are at exactly that space in time? I have so many friends that I miss, that I thought that it wasn't a big deal to talk to when I saw them out in public. Now I wish more than anything that I could talk to them, that I could see them face to face and know how their life is really going. Life jumps out at you and takes that time and knowledge away and I wish that I could have that time back. Talking is only one aspect being with a friend. One aspect that we miss so much if we "talk" to them online is that we miss all of the idiosyncrasies of their movements and their facial expressions. I get so much out of reading peoples faces and their movements. I miss that interaction from the friends that I have been away from for so long. I only wish that I did have the time to get together with my friends all of the time. So for now I will be happy with the knowledge of getting to spend time with my friends however I can, because I love them so much and to get to talk to them however I can is all that I really want and can ask for.

3 comments:

lyndsay said...

i know exxxcactly what ur talking about and it is definetely easier to talk to people online i hate the awkwardness that comes with seeing that person face to face because it shouldn't be there!! I try to clear it by taking the anitiative and saying hi first but then sense how uncomfortable they are and how hard it is to continue the conversation why laura why can't people just be friends without worrying about what the other person thinks of them?! Sorry i probably just made it worse adding to it no advice here just more questions

Emmie said...

well getting together with friends is pretty important... i liked your views on interactions between friends... u have expressed your thoughts very nicely.... u can sometimes drop by My Friendship Blog as well and have a glimpse of something u may find interesting...!!!

lyndsay said...

Hey laura i thought i would leave you a comment reguarding your comment left to kyle,anywhoo after that build up....i loved to hear your insight and i'm so thankful to have you as a friend and to get all your good advice!